Is everyone a potential cheater? No. But a large number of people think nothing of cheating on their partners. Some are more likely to cheat than others. Psychologists and relationship experts believe that cheaters have certain characteristics in common. Looking at personality traits, family history, and past experiences can help you recognize a cheating heart and mind.
LIKELY CHEATERS HAVE
People with active sex lives prior to a committed relationship have a hard time settling down. They’re far more likely to stray outside a relationship than someone who’s had a little sexual experience.
Some people find cheating a thrill. The excitement, deception, and intrigue feed them. When presented with an opportunity to cheat, they just can’t seem to resist. They need constant watching because it’s always easy for them to cheat.
This is not to say cheating is genetic. But it tends to run in families. A child raised in a household where cheating took place often grows up and considers it normal for partners to be unfaithful to one another.
OCCASIONAL CHEATERS HAVE….
When a person is discourteous regarding, say, a simple ”thank you” or appropriate ”excuse me,” it’s because they simply are not considerate of others. This includes their attitude toward animals as well as people. A tried-and-true adage is ”love me, love my dog.” Some cheaters simply don’t have regard for anyone’s feelings but their own. Someone who always puts themselves first is unlikely to consider how cheating is going to make their partner feel. They’re just downright rude.
A cheater often has lots of close friendships with members of the opposite sex, including ex-lovers. It only takes one of those best-friend situations to blossom into an affair and destroy an existing relationship. This person feels if you’re ”just friends,” it’s safe to cheat and you probably won’t get caught.
‘Birds of a feather flock together.’ A person who hangs around with people who cheat is soon to be cheating as well. There’s a camaraderie among cheaters; they support each other’s exploits and often share secrets about their sexual encounters.
SERIAL CHEATERS HAVE
This person cheats at everything in most areas of their life. They lie not only to their lovers but to their parents and friends as well. When they were students, they probably cheated on tests and stole books from the library. A toxic flaw in this person is constant white-lie. Someone who tells lots of lies about little things usually lies about big things, too.
‘History tends to repeat itself, and tigers don’t change their stripes.’ Sure, there’s such a thing as a reformed cheater, but it’s rare, and only after extensive psychotherapy or a life-changing cataclysm. Seldom does someone with years of cheating suddenly become a model partner. This person has an Olympic-gold medal in covering their tracks, and are not ashamed to recount their past cheating to a current lover.
This serial cheater is terrible at concealing their past and has a background that would make Casanova blush. The bad-boy/girl reputation follows this cheater wherever they go. Everyone knows about this person, everyone except their current partner. Often people will approach the innocent party and come right out and ask if your lover, or spouse, is cheating on you, too. Usually, when you’re being cheated you’re the last to know.
(a category all their own) INFIDELITY-MANIA
This is perhaps the most potentially dangerous partner of all because cheating is a life-long compulsion OCI (Obsessive Compulsive Infidelity). There are people, men, and women alike, who believe monogamy is an unnatural state and there’s nothing morally wrong with being unfaithful to someone who presumes your trust and exclusivity. OCI’s truly believe cheating is an antidote to boredom, or any shortcoming, in a relationship. This serial-cheater will have an affair at the drop of a hat and knows how to hide everything. Catching this one is hardest of all. It’s unlikely anyone has all ten traits, but several often occur in combination. Two to four traits are common. Yet even a single trait, when predominant, can indicate that your loved one is cheating. Familiarizing yourself with traits in a cheater’s personality can go a long way toward helping you find the truth when you suspect cheating. Forewarned and forearmed, you will be better equipped to catch your cheating lover or spouse.